Heroes

Does a child really need a hero?  If you consider the content of children’s literature, movies, toys and games, heroes obviously play a prominent role. Brave, strong and smart characters abound in children’s make-believe worlds.  But, what about in the real world?  The recognition and adoration of famous and everyday heroes is always making the news and gaining people’s attention.

A hero is defined as a person who has shown good character, been courageous, has special qualities or has achieved something that is considered extraordinary. Heroes are perceived by many as being role models and someone to look up to or emulate.

Heroes help kids understand the world around them.  Every country has their own list of recognized heroes.  Here in Canada people like Terry Fox, Chris Hadfield, Viola Desmond, Judy Payette, Wayne Gretzky and Rick Hanson would make the list.

When children learn about charismatic, courageous and important people and what they accomplished, survived and overcame in their own lives it helps teach them important coping skills that will help them lead happier and more successful lives.

But, really who are these people to a young child?  Why can’t you be all those things for your child? Why can’t you instill strong character and values?  Why can’t you inspire them to live meaningful and productive lives?  Why can’t you show them how to overcome adversity and obstacles that they may face in their life’s journey? It is a good thing when a child sees his mom or dad confronting challenges.  Truth is looking back most parents will discover that they have been, perhaps without being celebrated or praised the real unsung heroes in their child’s life!

It has been my own personal experience that and others may agree with me when I say you can’t sugar coat life.  I learned to be a stronger and more resilient adult because I had to face difficult times, challenges and loss when I was a child.  Learning to be more positive, patience, compassionate, committed, resourceful and resilient will lead a child towards stronger character development and more stable mental and physical health and wellness.

Life is not always going to be a “piece of cake” that is wonderful, kind and fair.  Children will unfortunately be dealt bad cards or receive lemons and must cope with subsequent challenges.  They will encounter difficult people and suffer disappointment, loss and adversity.  That is part of life!

Being around others who are experiencing difficult times can be a very powerful and influential learning experience. Children who are too sheltered from life’s realities may find it harder to cope with adversity as adults.

Participating in those defining moments within their family’s life like a move, job loss, an unexpected illness or injury, losing a friend, failing a test, getting a bad grade, having a poor performance, caring for an aging relative, the death of a pet, a missed opportunity, winning or losing can all be valuable learning experience and help prepare them for their own future life.

Don’t underestimate the significant role model you play as a parent. You can be your child’s biggest hero!  It may be difficult and demanding at times.  But, it is often the little daily things that best show your good character, courage and special skills!  Remember your children are watching and learning and YES, they do need a HERO like YOU!

THANK YOU for joining me!

Karen